"Yes Terrence is not here for this hes here too take care of his mother. Lets not forget this is emergency leave for me. Terrence is an adult he can do as he please. However you are clearly missing the point. It disrespectful to me hes not here for you this home visit is for him to care for me and family nothing else. Now I'm done with this I'm very annoyed by this,"said the future mother in law.
Yet I always have to keep my composure and not LOSE IT on her because she is his mother. Whatever that's supposed to mean! Or else I would have said something in response to that, like, last time I checked you said I was a part of your crazy family already, and if he's here for family like you said, doesn't that include me!? And disrespectful, I went out my way even though I didn't have to, and bought expensive book bags and school supplies for the two younger kids YOU have, because you couldn't afford to! Not that they don't deserve it, because they do! But the way your acting up and down with me is the disrespectful part of it all!! As well as me paying you more visits that your second oldest son, when you were in the hospital, and yet again going out my way and purchasing balloons, cards, and flowers in a vase for you outside of the hospitals gift shop! But I'm disrespectful? Ha ha! Or in fact when no one was able to pick up the two younger kids from school, I never hesitate and go to pick them up! And the list goes on...
But when your oldest son, my fiance and future husband and father to my children =) wants to spend literally every waken minute with me, it's such a BIG problem! I worked every day those two weeks and was off once a week, but every night I would find time, strength to drive down by the ferry area where he stayed babysitting his mother to spend quality time with him, ALONE! Being that we can never get any privacy when in the company of his family...we leave elsewhere! One night he acted on his own to NOT return until the next day, so that it was easier on me not to have to drive around 2 or 3 am in the morning, dropping him back off to babysit. He stayed over my place, and very early we both received a very disturbing voice mail on our phones; a bunch of yelling, cursing going on.
Like always, he had to rush to her rescue! I did not hesitate again to drive him there as I never do! But yet she thinks I control him and have him wrapped around my finger. Disgusting! I never tell him he can't see his family or speak to them. Had she ever thought, maybe her son doesn't want to! No, she would never think it's his fault, but MINE of course.
During these two weeks, he had to drop his younger brother to school by MTA bus early in the morning to show him how to get around for school, all this last minute nonsense basically...then afterwards he came over to my house that morning to relax and lay in bed with me for the morning until I had work that afternoon. But almost an hour after relaxing she called him saying that he needed to come back to the house ASAP, because there was a mouse caught on a trap...dead, obviously! No hesitation... I let him leave to attend to her...more excuses not to spend time with me, and babysit someone who was getting better by the days. Being able to walk on her own, and feed herself, use the bathroom; you name it! Just a waste of time, for hi, to sit around doing...nothing and being bored! Or the fact that, his mother's mother could have babysat she also came flying in from Georgia to take care of her daughter; she needed all hands on deck attention! Hmm. Whatever!
Besides that, we tried to make the best of things by going to the movies, the city, out to eat, a little shopping, movie and sleep over nights at my place, etc. Phones off! And it turned out great the times we were able to spend together without any interruptions from anyone; family or buddies! It was a first, but it was wonderful I tell you! Many pictures were captured, during every part of the days we spent together =)
Unexpectedly at the very end, we both agreed to trying to make a baby! Finally...I've been having baby fever forever. Anyways, but after the fact I guess it was too late anyways to do so unplanned...because...I ended up NOT being, you know what! And we BOTH had our hopes up, but I didn't pass the test. Although all signs pointed to that good news; sadly nothing. I honestly was in denial and devastated because I kept hoping it maybe was a mistake. Now I have to wait until Aug. 2014 to unplanned once again, and that's too far for me after waiting this long already and ignoring this baby fever. Hmm. #Stressed#NegativeResults#SadMess#InLawProblems#MilitaryLifestyle
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